A gentle space to keep talking to someone you lost
Grief doesn't end on the day of the funeral. The conversations keep going in your head — what you wanted to say at the bedside, the things you forgot to thank them for, the question you were saving for next time. Startover gives those words somewhere to land.
Who this is for
For anyone living with the silence after a loss. A parent. A grandparent. A partner. A sibling. A friend. A pet. The relationship that ended without warning. The relationship that ended exactly the way you feared it would. Both deserve a place for the things that didn't get said.
How Startover helps
Distill their voice from old messages, voicemails (transcribed), letters, anything you have. Or, if you have nothing written down, answer 14 questions about how they spoke and what they cared about — Startover builds a persona from your memory of them. Then say what you needed to say. The reflection afterwards isn't a score; it's a quiet read-back of what you reached for.
When you're ready
No timeline. People come months after a loss. Some come a decade later. Free during beta. Everything stays private — never used to train any model.
Common questions
Is this disrespectful to the person I lost?
That's a question only you can answer. Startover is designed to be a one-time or occasional space, not a replacement relationship. Most users come once, say what they needed to say, and feel a little lighter. Some come back on the anniversary.
I don't have any messages — can I still use this?
Yes. Use Baimiao instead. 14 questions about how they spoke, what they'd say at midnight, what they'd never admit. The persona will be sketched from your memory rather than verbatim history, and that is sometimes more honest.
Will this help with grief?
It might help with one specific kind of grief: the kind that lives in unsaid words. Startover is not therapy and not a medical tool. If grief is overwhelming you, please reach out to a licensed counselor or grief support group.
Is the conversation private?
Yes. Your account, your messages. Chat histories you upload are deleted after 30 days. Personas stay until you delete them. Nothing is used to train any model.